Words are powerful – and not just in terms of how someone or something may influence you, for example, the title of this article may have grabbed your attention and urged you to read on.
However, the most potent words are the ones you say to yourself (your self-talk) or to others about yourself or your situation. They will either be your best friend or your worst enemy. That is why, in this short article, I want to make it crystal clear how vital it is for you to mind your language!
So let’s get straight to the point. Whatever you utter, either silently to yourself or to someone else is received by your subconscious mind, exactly as you say it.
The subconscious mind is impersonal which means that it cannot judge what you are saying as being right or wrong. In other words, it’s like a giant sponge which soaks up everything. I’ll go further and say that the subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between a real event and a vividly imagined one – that is how powerful it is.
Sadly, very often people say negative things about themselves unwittingly, not realising the extent of the damage they are causing. Often, the same thoughts are repeated over and over until such time as they have become well-rehearsed. This is how beliefs are formed; however many beliefs are simply not true! Unfortunately, they might just as well be, because the quality of that person’s life is actually determined by their thoughts, their language and their feelings which translate into their actions. I wrote in a previous article that feelings are the currency of the universe and they are. http://www.thetrueworthexpert.com/love-is-the-answer-you-know-that-for-sure/
So it’s not just the words per se, it’s the emotion behind those words that determines your results. The stronger the emotion, the greater the impact for good or bad.
Pause for just a moment now and ask yourself the following question:
In general, does my language support me or hinder me?
If it supports you, then all well and good. If not, consider the following.
Do you say some or all of the following to yourself, occasionally, sometimes, often, all the time?
I’m not good enough
I can’t do it
It’s too hard
It won’t work for me
I don’t know
Nobody likes me
I’m too ________ (fill in the blank!)
I think you’ll agree that none of the above statements will help you, so are you now willing to change? If so, it’s time to take the following 5 crucial steps:
Step 1. Spend some time writing down all the negative things you say to yourself – get them all down on paper.
Step 2. Ask if these are helping you. (Here’s a clue: they’re definitely not!)
Step 3. Make a commitment to yourself to stop saying them.
Step 4. Replace them with empowering alternatives.
Is it that simple? Yes and no. It’s simple and yet not easy.
It does take the three Ds:
Step 5. Every time you recognise yourself saying or thinking something which does not support you, stop and change your language!
In other words, JDI – just do it – you’re worth it.
If you have any questions in relation to this article, please contact me on 01202 743961 or 07957 672335 or visit my Contact Vanessa Page to book your complimentary True Worth Strategy Session.