For many, many years, I lacked a huge amount of confidence, so I began to investigate to find solutions as well as seek outside help.
I came to understand that we tell ourselves things which just aren’t true.
E.g. I am not confident. It’s just a learned behaviour which has become a habit and therefore appears to be true. However, habits can be changed, if desire is there.
Right about now, some people may be jumping up and down saying but Vanessa I really do lack confidence, how can you say I don’t? They are fighting confidently for their limitations!
So if I was to ask are you confident:
Cleaning your face
Brushing your teeth
Taking a shower
Making a cup of tea
Stroking the dog
Switching on the tv
And so on, what would they say?
Of course I am.
So the statement I’m not confident is not true. The mind likes to make generalisations.
Would it not be more accurate to specifically state what you’re not confident doing, such as:
I am not confident driving a car or
I am not confident speaking in public or
I am not confident picking up the phone
In this way, you are identifying a task which you are not confident doing, which may be due to a lack of knowledge or practice, rather than labelling yourself as not intrinsically confident.
And this is a huge difference.
I’m Vanessa Ugatti, author of Amazon Best Seller, True Worth: How to Charge What You’re Worth and Get It. I help accountants, lawyers and consultants to generate more income, have more time and create more freedom without having to get more clients, do more work or compromise value or values.
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